O.K ladies I have a challenge for you! I posted this on Facebook also but I want to make it a little more extensive and also challenge my blog readers too!
The original post said this. "CHALLENGE LADIES: Ask your husband if there is one thing he would love to do but maybe thinks you would not do it or have told him you would not do it JUST WITH YOU (not a family thing), what would it be....and then do it with sheer joy! See what happens...and I challenge you to post it here. I will be doing the same :)"
So the updated challenge would be to do this daily. To make it a little easier you can phrase the question to be something like this "What is one thing you would like ME to do WITH or FOR YOU...just the two of us today." You just want to make it clear that YOU are doing something that he desires FOR or WITH him. Ask him in the morning before he heads off to work so you have the day to prepare. If he wants to go to a ball game with you, save your pennies, get a sitter (if you are local call us :) and tell him the date you are going. If he wants a good back rub ask him if he wants candles, music, scented oil...I know us women like that stuff but do they? If he wants to just spend time dreaming about the future with you, wear your kiddos out during the day and then put them to bed early so you can devote your time to HIM ALONE. But whatever it is he desires, give it your all, your BEST, your utmost joy! See what happens. I dare you!
The results of a wife's servants heart is amazing, marriages flourish, women learn things they never knew about their men...it just makes marriage fuller somehow to serve. It is part of Gods masterful plan. I love doing things for my man, that he enjoys...and I end up enjoying myself so much too! ♥ PLEASE do this challenge for at least a week. Let me know what happens, do you notice anything? How did he respond? Was it easy or hard? I am doing this too ladies! We are in this together. Post a comment here letting me know you plan on doing this, and I will be praying for you...pray for me too. Lets have some FUN delighting in serving our men in the way they desire! And you might just find that you added a new bit spice to your life.
Also I encourage you to take a look at the following 29 day challenge from To Love, Honor and Vacuum and do it WITH YOUR HUSBAND (Wade and I are half way through). I have been reading Every Woman's Marriage this is a wonderfully challenging book, it has really been a blessing and encouragement and also CONVICTING to me in my marriage. It is only $6.40 on Amazon.com - a book worth reading and having in your library. Also while I am on the reading recommendation thing the book Sheet Music is really good too. Blessings!
PS. Please feel free to share this however you like (link up in your blog, post on FB, twitter, pintrest), the more ladies we can challenge the better. The inspiration for this challenge comes from my Mom, who has been challenging the ladies in our church in a similar way. :)
11 comments:
Hey lovey I'm glad the challenge I gave you is being passed on. Now my challenge is .... do it for until death do you part :) SO worth it. It is way better to give than to receive.
Love,
Mom
I'm totally in on this one!
@shining.faith - glad to hear it!
I discovered last night this would be easier said than done...my husband did not have an honest answer for me, and I asked him in a bazillion different ways! I told him to think on it. And in the meantime not to be "defeated" by my own challenge I did something that I know he really enjoys, I got up really early with him this morning and had Bible time with him...which is something that has been hit and miss with my health. Dont get me wrong we do Bible time together, usually after supper or at the supper table, but he really likes having me awake with him in the morning before he goes to work.
My hubby said the only thing he could think of that I have said I don't want to do and he does is skydive...oh boy!!! :-/ Haha!!!
My hubby said the only thing he could think of that I have said I don't want to do and he does is skydive...oh boy!!! :-/ Haha!!!
I asked my husband, and at first, he was suspicious. lol He had a hard time coming up with an answer, too. In this order, he said (obviously!) sex, tickets to an OU Football game, tickets to a Redhawks game, tickets to a Thunder game, so all that will take a while financially. So I settled in for playing a game of football with him on the PS2. Yeah, I suck at it, but I think we had fun. And he said, "Should I be asking you those questions?" I would LOVE it if we prayed together... but those times are rare and far between.
I asked my hubby a few different ways. He thought about it for awhile, then informed me that nothing was coming to mind, and wondered if he was supposed to ask me the same question. :-) lol. He is going to let me know if he thinks of anything.
Does anyone have any ideas of creative ways to spend time together indoors? I'm trying to brainstorm on it and come up with a list of fun things for us to do together in the evenings. ANY IDEAS WELCOME! :)
glad to hear that you ladies are doing the challenge. on my end I have asked and pestered my husband for days...and have come up dry. Finally he answered my question in more depth that I had figured, which is good. More about me taking care of myself and managing my time better (like staying off the computer when he is home, even if it is only for a few minutes)...which all boils down to saving myself for him. It was such a sweet conversation and I am so glad that I got more of an answer than I was thinking. I will add that he did mention more time kissing and cuddling during the day <3 :) I have fallen ill with a respiratory illness during this time but I am still asking, wanting to know more of how I can serve him on a daily moment by moment basis, in a way that he desires. Praying for you ladies too. I would love to hear if @Cyndi Gomez goes skydiving with her husband!
@Jenny, yup I have been there...it maybe a good idea to give him some ideas. "Honey is there anything I can do with or for you, like when you go out and wash the car, would you like me to help? or sit there and visit with you?"
for indoor things we play games of all sorts, have a date night in (have a meal when our kiddos are in bed - spread a blanket and have a indoor picnic), showers together, wrestling matches, we read books together (I let him pick and he likes to read out loud and I love hearing his voice), I have washed my husbands feet and then given him a foot and hand massage. Just have fun! :) Blessings!
I asked my hubby and he was like, "Uh, like on our list of things to do?" I said, "Just anything!" and he said clean the garage and clean out the old fridge in there. I thought "...the garage???" and then said "Ok, lets do it!!!" ....and we never did it together because we were too busy with other things. I asked him the next day and he said the same thing. So I finally got it started without him because he was gone :-) that was special to him too :-) that I cared enough to do it without him. Keep trying ladies!!
Jenny, my husband loves Scrubs and Frasier. So I bought a Netflix subscription and I will watch those with him even though I don't like Frasier too much.
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